Comments on: Decisions, Decisions

By: LoriHandeland

LoriHandeland — Fri, 02 Apr 2010 12:32:46 +0000

Very good idea, Heather. It would have helped me to be in a classroom LONG before my senior year.

By: HeatherR

HeatherR — Fri, 02 Apr 2010 04:57:02 +0000

I didn’t read every post and I know this is a pretty late response, but I’ve 2 degrees – I put myself through college for a bachelor’s degree in psychology, and just last year I finished my JD. Both were tough, the first because i had a lot of growing up to do and then struggling to survive while going to school, and the latter because I was married with three small kids (6 months, 2 years and 6 years) when I started law school. I am in a world of student loan debt, and the market right now isn’t great for lawyers, but I don’t regret my choices. How I went about them I have some regrets for, but not what they were. VERY important though: choose a school where you can get real experience in the field you think you want to land in! If you want to be a doc, get an EMT cert first and go try it out, or at least volunteer in a hospital. Law school is a bunch of law theory, but mine had lots of clinics, and I worked in those and learned a LOT, and definitely found a niche that I enjoyed AND that I was good at! Better to find out in school that the reality of the job is not what you want to spend 40 years in than graduate and find out.

By: LoriHandeland

LoriHandeland — Sat, 27 Feb 2010 13:04:56 +0000

Everyone has been so generous with their advice. I really appreciate it. I’ll let you know what the final decision is. probably in a few months. I’m sure it’ll go down to the wire.

The winner of the ARC of CHAOS BITES is Beverly G. If you could send me your street address at
LHANDEL120 @ aol.com (no spaces)

By: E.R.

E.R. — Sat, 27 Feb 2010 06:11:12 +0000

I’m late to the comments, but I want to say that I did weight some decisions I made in life. For example, I knew that I didn’t want to apply for out-of-state colleges/universities and I wanted to be near my home so I applied for colleges that are nearby.

Some decisions are easier to make while others you have to ponder, taking the pros and cons of it all to arrive to a final decision.

First, look deep inside yourself and ask what’s important to you. It helps if you can narrow the general perspective to the important point. That’s the main point of the dilemma.

Then see if you can come up with some answers. It would be good if you list them to the most important then the least, so the criteria you come up with is the one you are most comfortable and feel important.

Talk it over with others, like families and friends. It would help find a dif. perspective to your dilemma.

And then, hopefully you’ll come up with an answer.

That’s the condensed version of my advice. I hope it helps.

By: chelleyreads

chelleyreads — Sat, 27 Feb 2010 05:18:42 +0000

for big decisions i usually journal to reflect. then not think about it for a day or two. then i go back and read over what i wrote, talk to some of my family or close friends and ask for their opinions and then make a decision. but for not so big (and a few big) ones i just go with my gut feeling.

By: Beverly G

Beverly G — Sat, 27 Feb 2010 05:02:25 +0000

depends on the desision sometimes i jump head first other times i make lists and plan and weigh all the options for me thats whats best planning and weighing all options and usually it takes a while i sit down and talk it threw with people then i make the best decision for my self

By: Donna Wise

Donna Wise — Sat, 27 Feb 2010 04:31:19 +0000

We’ve had four children go to college and they all chose their college for different reasons. Our oldest had to choose for his major-there were only 2 colleges in the state that offered that major. Our oldest daughter wanted a small college where she could run track and our second daughter wanted a large college, farther away, and NOT the one where her sister was!!(they were a year apart)! We did lots of research, I bought a book comparing colleges, and we visited a lot of different colleges! They all chose well!(child #4 had to choose a college that would accept her…but that’s a whole other story!!!)

By: Karen Hawkins

Karen Hawkins — Sat, 27 Feb 2010 03:15:12 +0000

Lists and research, but what I really want is a magic bullet that makes the decision for me and then I can live happily ever after.

But after I make lists and do research, I go with my first gut feeling.

Fortunately for me, Hot Cop is very analytical. Me, not so much.

By: LoriHandeland

LoriHandeland — Sat, 27 Feb 2010 03:00:03 +0000

Thanks, LisaG. I think you’re right.

By: Lisa G

Lisa G — Sat, 27 Feb 2010 02:58:14 +0000

Having 5 kiddos we did everything we could to see they all went to college. Fortunately, they all stayed within a 75 miles of home. I was happy! My only son quit after 2 1/2 years and I wanted to bonk him!! He made a decision last year which made up for everything. This year he started this police academy. His dream! My nightmare! My older two daughters finished college a few years ago and have great jobs. My twins are now juniors and can’t wait to be done. I couldn’t be prouder!
I’d say, “Don’t worry, He’ll make the right decision!”