Knees, Elbows, Ears and Toes!
Mar 12th 2008
Karen HawkinsGoddess Eye Candy
One of the things I enjoy most about The Goddess Blogs is FROS — For Refreshment Only Sundays, for those of you who may not tune in on weekends. I always try to find a nice, well-defined hottie or two to ‘refresh’ the beginning of our weeks. And oh, how I enjoy being ‘refreshed!’
I love male beauty. Honestly, how could anyone look at oh say, THIS . . .
. . . without admiring it? I mean, you COULD ignore it, but that would mean you are DEAD.
Honestly, though, it’s possible that this picture isn’t for you. That it has No Effect because it doesn’t really reflect YOUR sense of male beauty.
Which brings me to what I enjoy most about FROS — I love the variety of taste represented there. Some women like this . . . some women like that . . . it makes it all very interesting and gives me hope that man are equally generous and varied in their opinions.
So, which do you prefer? Tight abs or muscular thighs? Broad shoulders or well-defined chest and arms? Buns of steels or a devastatingly sexy smile? What about someone with killer eyes, the kind that make you melt whenever they look your way?
And then there is the ’sexy beyond the bod’ . . . men who are great listeners or who help with the dishes when they know you’ve had a tough day, men who know when you need a hug, and who do the laundry without complaining. I find those men oh-so-sexy, too.
Today’s blog is simply this: What do you love about men, physically and emotionally?
92 Comments »
Tina R on 13 Mar 2008 at 7:01 am #
Physically? Arms. I love a man with muscles! Oh, and a twinkle in his smile. Know what I mean?
Emotionally? Every time I see a man with children, at the mall or park or something. I just melt. They are so cute!
cail on 13 Mar 2008 at 7:21 am #
i love the unshaven, rustic look. give me a sailor with a beard any day and i’m smitten (well, actually, i *have* a sailor with a beard every day, my darling dh)
emotionally i like my men open and giving, to me specifically. someone who is a partner and a friend. someone with dreams and a love of adventure.
SuzyQ on 13 Mar 2008 at 7:23 am #
I’m sorry, I just can’t get past drooling over that picture *sigh*
Margaret on 13 Mar 2008 at 7:35 am #
Is it Sunday already? Hooray!
FreshEChelle on 13 Mar 2008 at 7:37 am #
Physically, a firmer body then I’ll ever try to get. Emotionally, he likes me - that would be a huge turn on ‘coz IT’S ALL ABOUT ME! (jk)
SuzyQ on 13 Mar 2008 at 7:43 am #
Fresh - you need the Happy Bunny T-shirt that says that! LOL!
elsiehogarth on 13 Mar 2008 at 7:45 am #
I have to honestly say that I am totally shallow and just love eye candy. I just love men. The total package is wonderful: height, great body, killer eyes, great personality and MUST smell good. To me the type of cologne a man uses says a lot about him. That’s why when I use to work in Finance I really enjoyed going the business district, in NYC, because not only were the men good looking, they looked fantastic in suits and they smelled heavenly.
KariE on 13 Mar 2008 at 8:05 am #
I’d be lying if I said I didn’t want the total package too. Who wouldn’t? But in reality I would like a man that is honest, respectful, caring, giving, feeling, buff, blue eyed, loving, romantic, hard worker and a great father. I don’t think I’m asking for too much, do you? :p
amy1242 on 13 Mar 2008 at 8:06 am #
When I was in college, I had a picture of this gorgeous guy, all buffed out with a great body, hair, smile, the works, pinned to my bulletin board over my bed, in my dorm room. On the bottom of the picture, in BIG, BOLD lettering it said, “Don’t Be Fooled! Somewhere There Is A Girl Totally P***ed Off At This Guy!” It always kept the perspective for us when we went out at night. Oh, so nice to look at, but nothing can take the place of personality and that special connection we get with certain people. For me, that spark you get when you’re with that certain special someone, is the best. Bonus points for being hot, cute, buff, etc… Oh, and I absolutely abhor a guy with a wandering eye. How disrespectful! I briefly dated a guy like this. What a waste of time that was! Young and stupid, it was my learning curve years.
Keri Ford on 13 Mar 2008 at 8:09 am #
And men only THINK they are the ones who like stare….please.
on the physical, I like
-height (not over 6′, I’m short, but want somebody to reach the high self so I don’t have to counter-climb)
-dark hair (blonds never look grown up to me, don’t understand it)
-muscles about like the fellow in the lovely photo above
-and a little body hair to give the guy some roughness. a little five o’clock shadow, chest dusting with a happy trail and I’m doing that staring drool.
on the emotional standpoint, I like someone like me hubby…he understands me without asking questions and he always has.
Karen Rose on 13 Mar 2008 at 8:10 am #
Oh, Elsie, you’re never totally or even a little shallow! It’s eye candy. Meant to be enjoyed like Michaelangelo’s David or something
KarenH- I love to see a man’s eyes crinkle when he smiles. Makes me want to smile along with him.
I have to say watching a man with his kids makes me melt, too. I remember once, years ago, we were in a meeting with one of my daughter’s schools. She was only about five and the school wasn’t being cooperative in terms of assisting with her disability. DH was so angry - and articulate - on behalf of his little girl. It was one of those “Now I know why I love you so much moments.”
FYI, research has shown that one of most powerful emotion-evoking images is a man holding an infant tenderly. Makes us all melt.
jessie on 13 Mar 2008 at 8:17 am #
Physically- I’m not really into ripped guys. Actually, not at all. I like guys who have flat stomachs, but the pecs and six packs and that little dip into the shorts turn me off. Don’t know why.
I like guys with devil-may-care smiles. Figurewise, I like guys who look like Roy from The Office (tall and big), or like Jim from The Office (tall and regular sized/a little lanky).
Personality- My BF is the funniest guy I know, so I’m really attracted to a sense of humor. I also like guys with really logical minds to balance my illogic out. Of course, kindness and caring and respect and all that good stuff are necessary, too.
Karen Hawkins on 13 Mar 2008 at 8:26 am #
Tina, I hear you on the ‘twinkle in their smile.’ For me, a man HAS to have a good sense of humor! I want laughter in my house, darn it!
cail, you have a SAILOR? That’s just an ‘argh’ away from a pirate. Yummmmmmmyyyyyyy! No wonder you’re always in such a good mood!
SuzyQ, I did the pic, too. I tried to find one that would appeal to most of us . . . and I thought he did it. Let me go and check again just to be sure . . . oh yeah. He’s gooood.
Oh, oh, Elsie! SMELL! I loooooooooooove a man who smells good. And I’m a sucker for Old Spice. Don’t know why, but when my guy has it on, I get all snuggly!
Kari, sounds reasonable to me. But then just from seeing you on the blog, I know you’re caring, witty, intelligent, honest (painfully so, sometimes! Heh!), generous, and just plain awesome. You DESERVE a guy like that.
Karen Hawkins on 13 Mar 2008 at 8:33 am #
Amy, I married a guy from my learning curve years . . . it wasn’t pretty. Lol! What a GREAT way to think of it. I’m going to let my daughter in on that phrase. And you’re absolutely right — the wandering eye is a NO-NO. When you’re with me, eyes here. I mean, a glance is a-ok. I don’t want a guy who is dead. But anything more than that and ZAP! He’s gone.
Karen Rose, I’m with you. I LOVE seeing a man with a child. I get all gushy and think, “Here’s someone worth keeping.” And oh, the crinkle around the eyes. LOVE it!
Ooooh, Jessie! Jim from The Office is TOTALLY hot! And you’re right, he’s not all buff, but he has that killer smile. It’s not devil-may-care, but sort of little-boy-mischief. SO sexy! I like a good smile, too. My dh (that’s Dear Heart for me — I’m not married) has a TERRIFIC smile, very devil-may-care and it makes me grin just to see it. I also like your addition of ‘logic’ to the great guy list. I loooove debating!
Karen Hawkins on 13 Mar 2008 at 8:43 am #
Oh, oh, oh! I thought of another thing! Hands. I looooove a man with real guy-hands. You know what I mean — not huge hairy knuckles, but with MAN hands. The kind that are gentle when they need to be, but open all of the tough jars without a hesitation.
Shiver. I LOOOOVE masculine hands.
Snik "Squeegee" White on 13 Mar 2008 at 8:47 am #
Physically - Between 6′2″ and 6′4″ dark hair with green/blue eyes. Some facial scruff/goatee. What attracts me first to a man is his hands. They have to be masculine, show he knows how to work, but how to be tender. Also, he will have guitar callouses on his fingers. My obsession with hands follows closely by arms/shoulders. I don’t need someone to be ripped, but when he holds me, I want to feel held.
Emotionally - I am SO done settling here. He will be a man of God. He will be stable, honest, respectful, funny, he will have or want his own children and will treat my daughter as his own. He will listen as well as he talks. He will be sensitive and gentle with me, but will take the reins in the relationship.
I know I am a strong independent woman who doesn’t need a man to be the head of the household, but I don’t want to be anymore. I think it might be a long shot, but its my dream guy or nothing. NO more settling for this chick.
doglady on 13 Mar 2008 at 8:47 am #
I’ll take the guy in the picture on a halfshell please! At this point I am SHALLOW when it comes to men. I want ‘em gorgeous - great abs, tight butt, horseman’s thighs, you get the picture. Thick hair, intelligent bedroom eyes and a slow sexy smile. Deep voice and confidence without arrogance. The ability to focus on one woman.
My late DH was boyishly handsome. He looked so young. Dark blond hair and green eyes. He was a bit absent minded, brilliant, thoughtful and insightful. Most endearing, someone would point out a hot chick and he would look up, smile vaguely and say “Oh, yeah.” and go back to what he was doing. He was so supportive of my singing even when it took me across the world from him. He was proud of me and vocal about it. He was tender and loving with animals and children. A guy with a brain AND a heart. Now that is sexy!
Kathy/Cookiedough on 13 Mar 2008 at 8:48 am #
to ogle and sigh over, I like a man like Gerard Butler. he makes me tingle!
ooooh baby!
Snik "Squeegee" White on 13 Mar 2008 at 8:50 am #
OH and another thing. Orthodox Jewish men will actually not look another woman in the eye, nor will they take her hand. They save their touch for their wives only. I want a man who does that too…not because he is bound by tradition, but because he cherishes me that much.
Sabrina Jeffries on 13 Mar 2008 at 8:52 am #
Karen Ha’s guy is cute, too! And any guy secure enough to hang out with her at a romance readers conference is a keeper, IMO.
I’m with Jessie–the ripped guys don’t do it for me so much, especially the hairless ripped guys. I like hair and I like lean and lanky.
Mostly I like sparkling eyes and a sense of humor or a dry wit. My dh has those, not to mention the dedication to his child. He would walk through fire for our son. Lord knows he did plenty of cleaning up urine and feces during the hard years (thank God that’s all over). Now THAT’S what I call a man, even if he does drive me crazy sometimes.
cail on 13 Mar 2008 at 8:59 am #
k-ha… growing up i wanted to be a pirate, and once i hit puberty i decided i wanted a pirate. when i met my guy at age 14 he took me sailing. amazingly it took us 10 yrs to finally realize we’re perfect for each other. well 8 yrs of distance filled with visits and letter writing, 2 yrs of finally seeing each other on a regular basis, and one very fun weekend. ::taunts:: i got a pirate…
KariE on 13 Mar 2008 at 9:04 am #
Karen H. Thank You! That is sweet of you to say.
Karen R.- “I love to see a man’s eyes crinkle when he smiles.” I wonder if this is what draws so many women to Mike Rowe. *sigh*
Claudia Dain on 13 Mar 2008 at 9:04 am #
Love this topic! I think you nailed it, K-Ha, we find different things attractive in men and visa versa for men to women. Don’t get me started on all the surgeries to make girls look like Malibu Barbie, just off the conveyor belt!
Anyway, I prefer a very long, lean look. Body builder bodies don’t do a thing for me (okay, maybe they do something!). My ideal man has a swimmer’s body…long muscle, not an ounce of fat, long legs, muscles that ripple in the arms and back. Being tall is Job One. I don’t know why, but shorter men don’t do a thing for me. It’s a total deal breaker.
K-Ha, ditto to the 9th degree on man hands. I love a man who’s not afraid to get his hands dirty! Guitar calluses on his fingertips? Love it.
cail on 13 Mar 2008 at 9:07 am #
sniky, don’t settle. there is someone great out there for you…
doglady, your late dh sounds like a dream! you were really lucky.
not to generalize, but i think most historical readers like a guy with some hair on his body… am i right? am i wrong?
Karen Hawkins on 13 Mar 2008 at 9:15 am #
Snik-Sque, I didn’t settle with my first marriage — I just didn’t know what I COULD have had. Now I know want it all and, frankly, I’ve found it. Took me a while but we’ve been together for 3 1/2 years as a couple and I couldn’t be happier. So take your time, keep to your boundaries and don’t settle. it’s not worth it in the end. Well, except the guitar calluses. I can just see a desperate-to-have-Snik guy out in his garage with a large file, trying to get the calluses on his fingers that she wants!
doglady, yup, it takes both. But it’s nice that you found it and give all of the rest of us so much hope! I just know you find it again, too. You’re a darned funny, wonderful lady and deserve to!
Sabrina, you’ve definitely got a keeper there. I looove dry wit. My DH has it in abundance, too, and it always turns me on. It’s so important that they sign up for ALL of the times to come and not JUST the good times. That is a true measure of a man.
Karen Hawkins on 13 Mar 2008 at 9:20 am #
cail, what a real romance you have there! And your own pirate, too! Lucky girl!!!! Your ‘one, very fun weekend’ made me grin.
Claudia, long and lean is a great look. My guy is that and used to be a swimmer though now he rides bikes. But I have to say I love to LOOK at Gerard Butler. Just look, mind you . . .
cail, I think most women in general like some hair on a guy’s body. I don’t hear a lot of clamoring for male waxing and, frankly, don’t see a lot of it in real life. But not tooo much hair. Thick shoulder hair could really turn me off. Ew!
Snik "Squeegee" White on 13 Mar 2008 at 9:20 am #
HA! It wouldn’t take all that long to get a callus. I had mine after a few days, so I’m sure he could work it out. Plus the calluses are the easy part…my perfect guy also will hate bananas. Talk about specifics eh? Yes, I know I’m crazy.
Karen Rose on 13 Mar 2008 at 9:21 am #
Kari - I think you’re right on Mike Rowe. He’s very masculine, but smart, funny and his eyes crinkle.
So do my DH’s. I’ve always loved that about him. DH also has these LONG blond eyelashes - he’s had to trim them when they get too long and hit his glasses. Can you imagine having lashes that long? So not fair.
Sabrina, your DH sounds like someone I’d love to know.
RachelG on 13 Mar 2008 at 9:41 am #
I like that men are more basic in nature but are more complicated then I think. I like the way a man’s neck smells. And I like that they can open pickle jars. Sometimes a man’s voice is hypnotizing and can put a girl in a trance. Have y’all heard Trace Atkins talk? Lord have mercy.
rg
Karen Hawkins on 13 Mar 2008 at 9:50 am #
Ah, Snik, he HAS to hate bananas? Wow. You ARE specific. Best of luck in that, though I’d think that if a guy was sweet enough, considerate enough, and sexy enough that I’d let him eat bananas at his office and I wouldn’t say a word. But that could be me.
Rachel, a man’s voice . . . oh. my. gosh. YES! Before I met in person my dh, he and I spoke on the phone and his voice got me hook, line, and sinker. Even now he can make me shiver when he lowers it to a certain level. I’ve never heard Trace, but oh, I will go online and see if I can’t find an interview where he’s chatting.
Btw, John Cusack’s voice is sexy, too. Makes me all melty every time I hear him talk.
Lisa H on 13 Mar 2008 at 10:01 am #
Karen H - you never let us down. Nice pic.
I love a guy for his eyes. Johnny Depp has the most expressive, on the edge of naughty, always with a hint of laughter, fall into forever eyes.
I love when you see fire in a man’s eyes. Turn ons - faithfulness in deed and thought. I like tall, big men, the bigger the better. I like longish hair too. I like men in expenisve suits and men in jeans and a tee-shirt. A little over weight does not bother me, I’d prefer it to someone too skinny.
Men with a good sense of humor and self confidence are also turn ons.
I have always shied away from buff men. They are so good looking, I feel like I could never trust one.
Now let me tell you how I really feel…
RachelG on 13 Mar 2008 at 10:19 am #
K-Ha
Trace is on celebrity apprentice. I tune in just to hear him.
While I love to look at really buff men, I would never date one. Anyone who spends that much time working out, would expect me to work out. Pass me the m&ms, that’s a big fat nada.
rgibson
Karen Hawkins on 13 Mar 2008 at 10:38 am #
Ok, hobbling back from checking out Trace on youtube and OH MY GOSH, what a voice! Even when he’s just talking, it’s rich and deep and silky and very shiver-inducing. Mmmmm! Ok, RachelG, I now ‘get’ Trace and YUM-MY! I might have to start watching that show myself!
Kim on 13 Mar 2008 at 11:15 am #
Rachel–I soooo agree with you! Trace Adkins is yum in a pair of wranglers. Hand him a phone book and let him start reading. Out loud.
I love big burly men. The taller the better. Like a big lumberjack. And he needs to be confident and sensitive and fun. Eyes. ohh, the eyes. There was this guy one time I had a horrible crush on. It was hook, line and sinker. He had dark blonde, curly hair and these blue eyes that were like twin oceans. I swear he could see straight to my soul with those eyes and I’d get so lost in them. *sigh*
The thing I love about my husband the most, that he knows me. Better than I know myself. And yet he still loves me *g*
zambonigirl on 13 Mar 2008 at 11:17 am #
I like guys who are just a bit squishy. Not too hard, not too soft. Just right. I like a good, broad shoulder and a bit of scruff also. I don’t like particularly large butts on men, which is funny because I prefer women to be a little bottom heavy with smallish breasts. I guess I sort of go for the opposite in the opposite sex. I like a guy to be masculine. A real man. I don’t like “pretty” boys. I also like a guy who knows what he wants. Not overly aggressive, but someone that’s not afraid to ask you out. If he’s got his head together, though, I find that more attractive than any physical feature.
Esri Rose on 13 Mar 2008 at 11:54 am #
Yeah, the kind of guy pictured above doesn’t really do it for me. I don’t care for the shiny, hairless look. Dark-haired guys with swirly chest hair, muscles that look like they come from an interesting hobby or job rather than the gym, and a killer grin. (My current vote for best killer grin currently goes to Craig Ferguson.) I have a fondness for broad shoulders, a long back and long thighs. And I like an androgynous quality in the face. For that last reason, I was a fan of Tom Cruise until he got all weird. Now I can barely stand to look at the man.
Emotionally, I like a man who is sweet but also whip smart, funny as hell, and expects me to be his equal. I’m grateful every day that I’ve found one.
anneriailin on 13 Mar 2008 at 11:58 am #
Lisa H, in my opinion, couldn’t have said it better! I agree with just about everything she said! I just hope i don’t have to compete against her in the available man category because I’d probably lose!!
Probably the only thing I’d add would that he’d have to be able to communicate. I’m not a mind reader and at my age, I’m tired of playing the guessing games.
–dorothy
Karen Hawkins on 13 Mar 2008 at 12:05 pm #
Kim, that’s so sweet, what you said about your husband and how he knows you. The greatest gift we can ever have is to find someone who loves as we are. Aw, you made me all teary-eyed! How sweet!
zamboni, ‘who has his head together’ is a very nice way to put it! I love that, too. One of the things I find very attractive about my guy now is that he’s had the same job for 15 years — he’s been promoted through the ranks, but he’s steadfast and knows how to stick with something. That counts for a lot!
esri, I could use a bit of hair on that guy, but I have to say, I do love his abs! I can’t stand Tom Cruise, either, btw. I never thought he was particularly attractive, but now I find him UNattractive. Weirdness is a turn off.
anneriallin, I’m the same way about communicating. Even if you have it something negative to say, be polite, don’t be personal, and just say it. I’m an adult and that’s soooo much easier to handle than all of those guessing games.
KariE on 13 Mar 2008 at 12:09 pm #
I am a bit turned off by hairy men. I dated a VERY hairy man before I met my dh and that kinda turned me off from it. A little chest fuzz is ok but that’s about it (and of course hair in the normal places is a must).
DebMarlowe on 13 Mar 2008 at 12:15 pm #
I love a man with wit. That’s what turns my toes! A sexy voice is very cool too. I agree with you guys on Trace–his speaking voice is just so smooth and melty–wait, maybe that’s me, just listening to him! Hee hee.
Now I’m going to totally embarass myself and admit that my latest celebrity man crush is probably only 19-20. I just keep thinking–what a man you will be when you grow up. Very bad, since I am Officially Old now.
Yasmin on 13 Mar 2008 at 12:40 pm #
I just love a guy with gorgeous eyes. Not in color but how expressive they can be. I love Enrique Iglesias’s eyes. Another thing I notice is height. I like someone at least a couple inches taller than me. I am only 5′6 1/2 but with heels I’m towering and heels are a must for me. I totally melt for accents. I listen to a sexy husky voice in any accent and I’m half way gone. *sigh*
Karie–I agree with you. Excessive body hair is not a plus for me. My uncle is a huge man, at least 6′2
and very broad shouldered. Once he took his shirt off at a fam. picnic. He has so much hair on his back, forearms, chest, face and legs.
Kim—I hope I’m as lucky as you. I am so weird and quirky that I feel sorry for the man that takes me on.
Karen love the pic, very yummy.
Maria P on 13 Mar 2008 at 12:49 pm #
RachelG have to agree with you about Trace. I love him. I watch Celebrity Apprentice just for him. Did you see the week he took of his shirt and he says my wife will not like this. I love that voice just sit and talk. And his expresions and most of his songs are so sensual.
The thing that I find attractive is eyes. Blue, green, and hazel. But they need to be expressive. I also love those guys that are all about their kids. Buff really is not my thing.
Now my DH has taken me to see Trace in concert 5 times. He does not like him but he knows I love him. I think that is so sexy.
zambonigirl on 13 Mar 2008 at 12:54 pm #
Oh, yes, Karen! A guy that can keep the same job for more than just a few years is really important. People who ping pong around tend to be just as unstable in their personal lives. I’m sure there’s an exception to every rule, but I’ve found through personal experience that ping-pongers either need new challenges (positive in a way), or have a problem with authority (negative). Someone who gets bored easily is not for me. Someone who has a problem with authority-I am not for him.
And I agree with Esri. This guy really is just too clean. LOL! He is certainly a head-turner, though.
Karen Hawkins on 13 Mar 2008 at 12:55 pm #
Deb, I do that, too! And yeah, I feel old when I think, “He’s a hottie — if I was 20 years younger!” ‘Cause then I think TWENTY YEARS? I used to think that was FOREVER.
Yasmin, there is no ‘normal.’ We’re all quirky. Just some of us are ‘quirky’ in public and some of us are ‘quirky’ in private.
Ah, Marie, that IS sexy! He sounds like a keeper!
Karen Hawkins on 13 Mar 2008 at 12:56 pm #
zamboni, yup! I’m with you. I think ’staying power’ is important in a man, and I mean that in a wide variety of ways! Heh!
Meg on 13 Mar 2008 at 1:56 pm #
Wow! I hate that I have missed so much! Great topic, btw. Karen, I’ll take some of everything you mentioned at the start of this blog! Some tight abs, love the stong arms, broad shoulders, a defined chest with just a sprinkle of hair, nice butt, a heart melting smile, eyes that only see me, I also love a scruffy voice, and of course you have to add the good listener gene, and he should be willing to help out with anything if you have had a bad day…*sigh* What a recipe!!
You know, a few years ago (a now ex-)assistant manager that I had made me so mad (he yelled at me in front of a lot of people not just employees) that I cried when I got home! Jason (that was my husband) asked if I wanted him to go and beat the man to a pulp.
It made me laugh, but I honestly think that had I said yes he would have at least threatened the guy. I guess I should add the protective vibe to my list. As long as he isn’t too protective.
anneriailin on 13 Mar 2008 at 2:04 pm #
I forgot about the accent!! I could listen to a Scotsman, a Welshman or an Englishman all day long and just sit and sigh. Wouldn’t matter what they were talking about….they could be reading the telephone directory and it would be sexy. *sigh*
–dorothy
Gannon on 13 Mar 2008 at 2:05 pm #
Sabrina is so right about K-Ha’s DH–he’s a cutie and the fact that he could hold his own amongst all of these women at CR….he’s a keeper!
There are so many things to love about a man. Where should I start? A great smile and dimples always do it for me, and lucky for me my DH has both! Along with strong arms, hairy chest (but not too much), nice butt….should I keep going?!
We’ve been married for almost 20 years (July 30) and he still turns me on. I love the sprinkling of gray he has in his hair now, very sexy!
And a man who loves kids….irresistable. My mom says she’ll never forget seeing my DH carrying our oldest son in the hallway of the hospital after he was born. Completely wonderful!
Even though men can be a pain–can’t we all–I can’t imagine the world without ‘em!
Gannon on 13 Mar 2008 at 2:06 pm #
Oh, definitely an accent!! A Scottish brogue just makes me melt. Mmmm Mmmm.
RachelG on 13 Mar 2008 at 2:21 pm #
Maria,
Mr. G has taken me to see Trace. He’s not a huge fan, but knows I am. It was a fab concert. Outside at a ski resort. Trace had a hard time catching his breath at that altitude, but I didn’t mind his heavy breathing.
Karen Hawkins on 13 Mar 2008 at 2:23 pm #
Meg, what a sweetie! It’s a fine line to walk, to be feminine AND strong and to be with a guy who is both strong AND gives you room to be independent and yet knows when you need a sword arm to flash in the skies. Very, very sweet.
Ohhh, Dorothy, I hadn’t thought of that but oh, an accent! *swoon!* Two words - Gerard Butler. Doesn’t he have a voice and accent to die for? BOTH!
And Gannon, ty for saying that about my guy. He’s a gruff, bluff sweetie and I love him dearly. I couldn’t ask for a more supportive, creative, intelligent guy. His IQ, btw, is over 170. It’s fascinating just to watch him work his way through an issue or project. Makes me fall in love again!
I’m with you - a sprinkling of gray is SO sexy! It denotes experience, depth, and maturity which are all sexy qualities!
You guys are so spot on! It’s neat to see so many women with both an appreciate of the physical as well as an understanding of the necessary emotional components for a fulfilling relationship!
Karen Hawkins on 13 Mar 2008 at 2:24 pm #
Rachel, I want to meet Mr. G! You gotta bring him to San Francisco this summer!
Gannon on 13 Mar 2008 at 2:28 pm #
Wow, Karen! An IQ of over 170?! Smart, sexy, supportive and sweet! Aren’t you the lucky one to have such a guy!
Meg on 13 Mar 2008 at 2:28 pm #
Add me to those in favor of an accent! English is good, Scottish is even better, but my FAVE is Australian. Just thinking about it gives the the shivers.
Claudia Dain on 13 Mar 2008 at 2:33 pm #
I have now spent 40 minutes watching country videos on You-tube. You guys! I watched Trace Adkins, who I adore, then skipped over to Dierks Bentley, who is so adorable, then had to watch a few Toby Keith, whose humor cracks me up. I made myself stop after that. I didn’t even switch over to iTunes to download anything! Discipline, that’s me all over.
Is there any way on earth I can put this down as time spent on research? Gotta be! Thinking caps on…
Karen Hawkins on 13 Mar 2008 at 2:33 pm #
Gannon, I’m very lucky, though it took me to the age of 40 to find such a winner, so quick I’m not.
He’s not the most social guy (which you may have noticed at the conference — that was quite talkative for him), but he loves DOING things and I dig that. We go hiking, kayaking, bike riding, and he flies gliders and is getting his power flight license now. Very cool!
Meg, I hadn’t thought of an Australian accent! I definitely like it better than English, but oh, that Scottish brogue is still my favorite. It SLAYS me though they’re all sexy and, for some reason, so much sexier than a flat American accent! Probably just the exotic flavor of it.
Any of you guys like a French accent? That’s never rocked my boat.
Gannon on 13 Mar 2008 at 2:33 pm #
Meg, yes on the Australian accent! A la Hugh Jackman, of course!
Karen Hawkins on 13 Mar 2008 at 2:36 pm #
Claudia, that definitely qualifies as research. And I know how you like to be accurate so I say research, research, RESEARCH!
Btw, I’ve always thought Toby Keith has a GREAT smile. Lop sided and mischievous! Oh, be still my heart! **thumpa thumpa thumpa!**
Karen Hawkins on 13 Mar 2008 at 2:38 pm #
Hugh’s lost a lot of his accent, btw. Even when he’s in an interview, he’s sounding more and more American.
NOT that he doesn’t look hot, especially now that he’s bulking up for his movie, WOLVERINE. Have you guys seen him lately? YOWZA!!!!
http://www.fadedyouthblog.com/2290/beach-body-alert-hugh-jackman-edition/
Gannon on 13 Mar 2008 at 2:43 pm #
K-Ha, my MIL always said that Toby Keith’s grin in some of his music videos reminded her of my husband–even though they look nothing alike. But, oh, that grin!
And Hugh is looking very buff and HOT these days!
Suzanne Enoch on 13 Mar 2008 at 3:17 pm #
The eyes. I love the gaze that has a warm sense of humor and intelligence behind it. Of course having nice stuff around the eyes doesn’t hurt, either.
Karen Hawkins on 13 Mar 2008 at 3:25 pm #
Ohhh. Gannon! I’ve got to meet this guy of yours! Maybe I’ll see him at the highland games this summer.
SuzanneE, yeah, it’s all or nothing. Good to look at is enough for a stranger ambling by. But to spend time with ‘em? Gimme some gray matter!
Judy F on 13 Mar 2008 at 4:13 pm #
Thanks for the hottie today. I so needed one.
I love a man’s smile. Penetrating eyes get me too, have any of you seen Brian Bloom who used to be on ATWT. YUMMY.
Someone that talks to me not around or over me. My dentist (sadly married) is the geekiest looking guy I know but I could just talk to him all day. He really focuses on you when he talks to you. That is heady.
I like a little chest hair too. and Karen I have seen Hugh lately in mags. Yummo. LOL
Laidybyrd on 13 Mar 2008 at 4:14 pm #
Love reading y’alls comments. Yeah, Trace Atkins has a great voice and have you seen him dance? Whoo wee! He can surely shake his thang. But for a sexy singing voice I’ll go for Josh Turner - Go With Me and Firecracker. Go have a listen. But he looks like a child.
http://www.cmt.com/videos/josh-turner/92600/would-you-go-with-me.jhtml
http://www.cmt.com/videos/josh-turner/174153/firecracker.jhtml
I like ‘em big (6′4″ and up), slim hipped with chest hair. About the eyes, my DH has this nifty little wink he gives me as we are moving about a room with a lot of people. It tells me I’m special.
Freshechelle on 13 Mar 2008 at 4:28 pm #
Oh lucky you who find an Australian accent a turn on. Having had a hostile Aussie boss, the accent spoke by a man just puts my teeth on edge. Good on you, mate.
RachelG, yes, there’s a lot to be said for voice! Did you catch Trace’s incredible discomfort at being “kissed” by Piers on CA? I’m hoping he’s unwound a little since that experience.
Meg on 13 Mar 2008 at 4:44 pm #
Judy F–I am a HUGE fan of ATWT but I don’t know many of the stars by their real names. Which one is Brian Bloom?
Judy F on 13 Mar 2008 at 5:07 pm #
Brian Bloom played Dusty back in the 80’s I think. Had the best eyes
Kim on 13 Mar 2008 at 5:19 pm #
Yaya–no worries, sweetie! Hang in there and someday you’ll find the perfect man for you. Did you read what KarenH wrote? She was close to 40 before she found hers. But once you do the wait will be well worth it!
Sniky–that goes for you too! LOL. Today you totally reminded me of Sandra Bullock in Practical Magic. Her true love must ride a horse backwards, catch pancakes in the air, his favorite shape is a star, etc.
Speaking of romantic men, has anyone heard Gannon’s proposal story? *swoon* THE. Most. Romantic. Moment. EVAH.
Kim on 13 Mar 2008 at 5:21 pm #
ahhh, Toby Keith! Did I ever tell you guys my childhood boyfriend looks just like Toby. um, if he were strung out and very scruffy. *g* And totally out of shape.
Freshechelle on 13 Mar 2008 at 5:23 pm #
Kim, you sure can paint a picture… sounds like a really catch … and release.
J Perry Stone on 13 Mar 2008 at 5:37 pm #
I wanna know Gannon’s proposal story.
And I love Toby Keith.
And I wanna see pics of Karen’s smart, hottie beau.
so physically–I like dark men with hairy chests that are bigger than mine (yes, I meanst the chest), and I like the guys to be taller than me if I’m wearing heels, which means he could be 5′8″ and be okay.
emotionally. BE NICE!!–But don’t let me squash you. And make me laugh, have a good work-ethic, and put family before your job. And also, don’t fart om bed and put my head under the sheets, but I can’t figure out if I should list that under “physical”–because of the action, or “emotional”–because of my response???
Claudia Dain on 13 Mar 2008 at 5:39 pm #
Thanks, Karen, I needed a note from “mom” ’splaining that watching Toby Keith sing “I Ain’t As Good As I Once Was” is research. I feel better now, clean somehow. *G*
Kim on 13 Mar 2008 at 8:13 pm #
Fresh–precisely! That’s why I released him for someone much much better *g*
J–LMAO! Sorry, Sweets, but I’m totally laughing at having a bigger chest than you. LYG! And what? You don’t like dutch ovens? I’ll make a mental note not to give you one in SF. HA!
Karen Hawkins on 13 Mar 2008 at 8:20 pm #
Claudia, walk toward the light! Mt. Oly welcomes you!
And J - P, if you have to say out loud, “No farting in my bed and then putting my head under the sheets” to ANY person, man or woman, it’s time for what my DH calls a Come To Jesus Talk where one of us will walk away completely converted and it won’t be the gas emitter, either.
And Gannon, WE WANT TO HEAR THE STORY! NOOOOOOW! PLEEEEAAASE!!!!
J Perry Stone on 13 Mar 2008 at 8:22 pm #
Well, you know how i get these gagging fits, Kim. Little Sara had to talk me out of it at the Lit Signing in Dallas cuz some reader booted near the check-out tables. Dutch ovens do me similar. I’m gagging right now typing this.
Did any of you see that Toby Stevens compilation on Youtube?? The one with Brittney Murphey singing “You Turn Me On,”–and some clips of Toby being ridden like a horsie?
Holy mama!
J Perry Stone on 13 Mar 2008 at 8:29 pm #
I wrote “I love Toby KEITH.” OMG. I meant Toby STEVENS. Isn’t Toby Keith that guy who wants to put his boot in someone’s ass???
And your DH is right, Karen. Wait a minute. The farter isn’t converted??
Karen Hawkins on 13 Mar 2008 at 8:44 pm #
Oh yes, the farter is converted. Forever and ever, amen.
Kim on 13 Mar 2008 at 10:19 pm #
LMAO! You two are killing me. You know how I love to talk about bodily functions! Seriously, if you can’t fart and laugh about it with your loved one, who can you?
J–I totally forgot about your gagging. Too funny!
Tracy Kay on 13 Mar 2008 at 11:23 pm #
Honestly, I like a man with a little substance. Yes, yes of course he should be strong and I love a little muscle. But I love a guy who doesnt have the absolute perfect body. I like ‘em a little husky. I’m not a slave to looks, but brown/black hair with blue/green eyes is a DEFINITE turn on.
In the emotional sense, I tend to look for guys who are protective of me. If they’re worried about my safety, I just melt. Also, a man that is a good father to his children is a beautiful thing. If he doesn’t have his own kids, I love when men enjoy being in children’s company. That’s probably the biggest turn-on for me.
Mmmmm I just love men. Any shape, any size, I love them all.
haha :o)
Karen Hawkins on 13 Mar 2008 at 11:43 pm #
And that, Tracy, is a precious gift. I tend to be cynical and it hurts me.
No more, though! I’m trying to become the Queen of Sweetness and Light!!! (Am I the only one who heard J-Lo cackling madly in the background?) It could happen. One or two chocolate martinis and–
Hey, where’s Gannon? WE WANT YOUR PROPOSAL STORY!
evlqn on 14 Mar 2008 at 1:22 am #
I love beautiful minds, intelligence is such a turn on for me. I always look at and into the eyes first, there has to be somebody home.Looks don’t hurt though.
Hugh Jackman is gorgeous! And what a voice! Have you heard him in Oklahoma?
Brian Stokes Mitchell, another wonderful voice, much sexiness!!!
And guys with kids are wonderful. One of my favorite memories of my sons is when my granddaughter Isabella was born. There are these two strapping men holding this 6#2oz baby, singing “The Drunken Scotsman” to her.
Men totally committed to thier wives are terriffic too. My son Ian brought the girls down for a visit so my DIL could have a couple of days to herself. He lasted 19 hours before he had to go home to her, because”Mahni missed the girls.”
J Perry Stone on 14 Mar 2008 at 7:52 am #
Yeah! I’m not going to have a good day until Gannon tells her story!
Maria P on 14 Mar 2008 at 8:02 am #
I have to laugh–My daughter was in kindergarten and my sister was picking her up at school and she tells her “I kissed a boy today” of course my sister is trying not to show it but she is gettign alittle nervous and asks why? She tells her “because he has the most beautiful blue eyes” Later my sister tells her you know next time you think you want to kiss a boy why dont you just shake his hand. She is 17 and I am always reminding her of that. She still goes for the eyes though. So Suzie E I think there is something to those eyes.
Karen Hawkins on 14 Mar 2008 at 9:10 am #
evinqn, what an adorable story and what a song to sing to a baby! VERY guy-like and just adorable at the same time. I agree with you about the committed to their wives part being sexy. It’s one reason I love Hugh Jackman. He ALWAYS says such nice things about his wife and you never see him out catting around. If he did, I wouldn’t think he was as hot as he is!
And no, I’ve never had the pleasure of hearing Hugh sing (sob!), but I hope to one day. Sigh!
J. Perry, me, too! GANNON, WE WANT YOUR PROPOSAL STORY!!!!
Maria, sounds like your sister has her hands full! Eyes are SO sexy. My DH has green eyes and I just looooove them.
Gannon on 14 Mar 2008 at 10:08 am #
Ok, ladies, here’s my proposal story. On December 18, 1987, my then boyfriend and I, hiked to the top of Roan Mountain (the NC side, not the TN side), with wine and cheese in hand. Although it was December, it was not too cold, so our little al fresco dining was delightful. After we’d finished our wine–yes, the whole bottle–, my DH asked me to go sit on a nearby rock and close my eyes. Being the curious sort that I am, I quickly complied and soon something heavy fell in my lap. When I opened my eyes, I saw a bottle of Dom Perignon in my lap. Looking up I asked, “What’s this?” My honey said, “People usually drink this on a special occasion, and that’s what this is.” Having said that, he pulled a box out of his pocket, opened it and showed me a beautiful marquis diamond engagement ring. And yes, he got down on one knee and asked me to marry him! I found out later that he had asked my parents for permission several days earlier. Is it any wonder I said yes?!
(cont)..
Gannon on 14 Mar 2008 at 10:11 am #
This past December, on the 20th anniversary of our engagement, he had another surprise in store for me. As luck, or fate, would have it, we now live about 30 minutes from Roan Mountain. Well, unbeknownst to me, my honey arranged for us both to have the day off from work, went to the wine shop where I work and bought primo bottle of bubbly and we went back to the top of Roan Mountain. This year it was freaking freezing!! But it was lovely and now I know why I married him! Just when I think I have him figured out, he surprises me in such a wonderful way.
And yes, Karen, you’ll get to meet him if you come to the Highland Games this summer.
Karen Hawkins on 14 Mar 2008 at 10:34 am #
Oh Gannon, what a delightful, delicious and thoroughly ROMANTIC guy! Now THAT’S a proposal! And in such a great place, too! I’ve hiked there often. I adore Roan Mt.
Ok, I’m all teary-eyed now — sniff, sniff! Thank you for sharing that and thanks to Kim for outing that you have such a great story, too!
Kim on 14 Mar 2008 at 2:46 pm #
Isn’t it a wonderful story??? I loves it! Thanks Gannon.
Gannon on 14 Mar 2008 at 2:55 pm #
Thanks, y’all! Makes me all teary-eyed, too, Karen.
J Perry Stone on 14 Mar 2008 at 4:39 pm #
That’s an AWESOME story. And I’ve had such a horrid day, so God bless you, Gannon, for being the one bright spot.
Santa on 14 Mar 2008 at 9:31 pm #
Gannon, that was beautiful! You certainly have a keeper! Thanks for sharing and for cheering up J Perry!
BZHAnne on 21 Mar 2008 at 10:33 am #
Physically, ALL of the above-mentioned qualities, plus 6′ of solid granite and buff as they come. But NOT hairy. Sorry, but if I wanted hairy, I’d drool over King Kong.
Emotionally, he has to be sensitive to my moods and appreciative of my sensitivity to his.
He should also know how to give a smashingly great massage.