Channeling Jane
Oct 10th 2007
Nicole JordanWhen Goddesses Fall To Earth
My life has been a bit frazzled of late, mainly because several deadlines seem to be converging all at once – not to mention the little curve balls Life throws at you just when you least need them!
But this past week I took three hours out of my work schedule to see Becoming Jane, a movie about a young Jane Austen at the start of her writing career. (I went alone since my dh doesn’t care for historical chick flicks.)
This lovely little story posits that a broken romance shaped Jane’s life significantly and turned her into the splendid novelist she became.
I have to say that putting myself in Jane Austen’s slippers for a few hours was truly good for my soul. I smiled and shed a tear or two, admired the witty banter, and sighed at the genteel mating dance between two sparring lovers. And for a time I was immersed in the
details and language of the Regency period, which can only help me as a writer.
I came home re-energized and ready to dig in again. The movie rejuvenated my creative well. I suppose in part because seeing the trials and tribulations other people experience makes mine seem much less serious!
Do you get frazzled in your daily life or when you
get thrown unexpected curve balls? How do you cope? Is there something that renews your spirit? Movies? Books? Family or friends? Exercise? Nature? Pets? Who would you channel to help unfrazzle you if you could?
I’ll be taking notes, so that the next time I get frazzled, I can try out your antidote! And if you saw Becoming Jane, I’d love to know what you thought of it [be sure to mark your comment with *Spoilers* first if you plan to give away plot points].
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Lori on 10 Oct 2007 at 11:12 pm #
I saw Becoming Jane on a return flight from the UK this summer. I have to admit, I loved it. I know plenty of folks didn’t because they felt it wasn’t completely true to her life. But poetic license and all that… and I absolutely loved James McAvoy, who was also in Last King of Scotland (he was fabulous in that as well!).
Bottom line, when I get frazzled, I unwind in my room with a book. By myself. The kids know to leave me alone, as does the hubby. If it gets really bad, my DH will tell me to go shopping. That’s when I know I’ve become completely unbearable. But who wouldn’t love a hubby who tells you to go shopping when you’ve turned into a completed you-know-what, instead of getting mad at you? Granted, I’m perfectly aware that he just wants me to go away, but still… just saying…
Stacy ~ on 11 Oct 2007 at 5:43 am #
Hey Lori! I also enjoyed the movie, blogged about it awhile back. I agree that while it wasn’t a true event, I still enjoyed the movie, and yes, James McAvoy was wonderful in the role, as well as Anne Hathaway in her portrayal of Jane.
Books are definitely a huge comfort, and one I turn to time and time again. Sometimes just being alone to unwind works wonders - I am an introvert so I feel drained when I am around people constantly, and reading is a great, solitary way to re-charge my batteries.
Hanging out with girlfriends and chatting, venting, laughing can also be a wonderful way to re-energize and feel like yourself again. Plan on doing that tonight actually.
Suzanne Enoch on 11 Oct 2007 at 6:50 am #
I haven’t seen it yet! It’s beginning to look like I’ll have to wait until it comes out on DVD.
When I need historical inspiration, I pop in one of the Jane movies — “P&P” (either version), “Emma”, “Sense & Sensibility”. Something about hearing the cadence of the language really helps to put me back in that mindset.
For contemp help, it’s “To Catch a Thief”. Hands down, baby. *g*
Bumblebee on 11 Oct 2007 at 7:08 am #
I have not seen it yet, but I did see “The Jane Austen Book Club” with my husband last week as part of our anniversary Date Night! Loved it, by the way, just sappy enough. My husband was also sighing over the beauty of some of the “older women”. Ha! I told him that, for me, this is as good as it gets.
Comfort is my heated blanket, a good book, and (lately) a Skinny Cow Strawberry Shortcake ice cream sandwich. Oh, and not being on call for work. I can never really relax when I have that pager staring at me. Kind of like a big black spider (see yesterday’s post!).
-Emmiebee
Ellen on 11 Oct 2007 at 7:10 am #
I take a pajama day.
There is something so self absorbed about getting up in the morning, taking a shower and then putting on a clean pair of pajamas. It sends a very loud and clear message to all who love me.
“The Mommy is on empty. She is not available to do anything that will require socialization or car rides. She cannot come to the door and will barely tolerate answering the phone. Only those bearing gifts of food or wine will be allowed to enter her inner chamber. If you expect her tanks to fill up completely, respect her need for privacy…and do the laundry.”
Sherri Erwin on 11 Oct 2007 at 7:26 am #
Loved Becoming Jane! There’s a scene (I don’t think it’s a spoiler) at the dance when she sees him suddenly next to her and you can just feel the electricity. That one glance said more than most love scenes.
I do get frazzled, and when I do, I have to whine it out. One long frantic whine, even if no one is listening, and then I can move on.
Lisa H on 11 Oct 2007 at 7:53 am #
Do I get frazzled? Right now with an abundance of peri-menopausal symptoms, a teenager, a tweenager and a two year old, a husband who is a work a holic and a book in the hands of prospective agents —my answer is OH YEAH!
Here are some sure fire solutions:
1. Go somewhere quiet and pray! Truely I feel better before I am finished.
2. Call my best friend and tell her of my woes.
3. Pick up my book and read a while.
4. Work through it by trying to accomplish a small task or two.
Ellen, you actually shower and then change into clean PJs? I just usually remain in the ones I have slept in!
Karen Hawkins on 11 Oct 2007 at 8:30 am #
I’ve been dying to see that movie, but like Suzanne, I think I’m destined to catch the dvd. I love historical movies and have them all — P & P, S & S, Emma, etc. I
When I get stressed –
Hot bath with these great citrus salts I found, a nice glass of chilled wine, and a romance book. Ahhhhhh! PERFECT!
doglady on 11 Oct 2007 at 8:32 am #
I loved Becoming Jane, poetic license and all. When I want to detox from the real world I take a pajama day as well. My dogs love it because they realize Mom is not going to work and will probably stay in one of two places all day - curled up in bed (their personal favorite) watching movies and / or reading OR sitting in front of my computer writing. (That is less of a favorite, but they do get to curl up on my feet.) On the days I write I try to lose myself in the world of my characters. When I cannot do that I enjoy the work of other writers! A pot of Earl Gray and some baked goods and I am good for the day. So, Goddesses, thanks for helping me to detox!
cail on 11 Oct 2007 at 9:05 am #
when i’m frazzled i go for a long walk. usually alone with headphones on. sometimes i go for a run. if i’m running you’ll know it was a really bad day.
also just going back to sleep works.
i haven’t seen Becoming Jane or the JA Book Club. I’ll have to netflix them.
anneriailin on 11 Oct 2007 at 9:11 am #
I too loved ‘Becoming Jane’. Poetic license and all, it was a wonderful movie. I laughed and shed the occasional tear. and I have to agree with all the others that said James McAvoy was splendid.
When I want to unwind or de-stress or just get away from the everyday, I either read or watch a movie. The movie depends on the mood, it could be ‘Finding Nemo’ or an older classic movie like ‘Charade’ with Audrey Hepburn and Cary Grant.
–dorothy
SuzyQ on 11 Oct 2007 at 9:16 am #
A nice glass of red wine always seems to do the trick.
I haven’t seen the movie yet, but I’ll have to see it when it comes out on DVD.
Sabrina Jeffries on 11 Oct 2007 at 9:23 am #
I’m dying to see the movie, but haven’t had the chance. I should see if it’s playing still, and go by myself. I would go with friends, but they went without me (because I was on deadline, curse it). Like Suzanne, I guess I’m going to have to wait for the DVD.
And to relax? Nothing beats a hot soak in the tub. Nothing. Preferably with a book.
claudia dain on 11 Oct 2007 at 9:25 am #
I would give 15 pounds (my left arm) to be the kind of person who finds exercise relaxing. I don’t. Or maybe it’s that I haven’t tried it enough to make the connection. Definitely possible.
Reading a good book or watching a fun movie does it for me. It doesn’t matter what kind of book or movie as long as it sweeps me up and carries me off.
Nicole Jordan on 11 Oct 2007 at 9:31 am #
>>> If it gets really bad, my DH will tell me to go shopping. That’s when I know I’ve become completely unbearable. But who wouldn’t love a hubby who tells you to go shopping when you’ve turned into a completed you-know-what,
LOL, Lori. That is some hubby you’ve got there. What a gem. And I haven’t seen Last King yet — dh told me it was really good but dark and I didn’t have the energy for dark right then. But it’s on my “to see” list.
And I’ll definitely have to see “The JA Book Club.” I’m fortunate to have a $1 theater near us, which shows movies about 3 months after they get general distribution and before dvds. So if I miss one I want to see, I only have to wait 3 months.
As for poetic liscence, I have no problem whatsoever with it, probably because I’m a fiction writer, *G*.
Nicole Jordan on 11 Oct 2007 at 9:44 am #
>>>Hanging out with girlfriends and chatting, venting, laughing can also be a wonderful way to re-energize and feel like yourself again.
Love this, Stacy! I wish I could do it more often.
Pajama Days! Love that, too, Ellen. I laughed at your image of Mommy locking herself in her room. I haven’t done that in so long. As soon as I finish these deadlines, I’m gonna do just that.
And all these other ideas are wonderful. I’m definitely making lists. In fact, I haven’t take a hot bath or hot tub in a couple of years… Gonna put that at the top of my list.
Doglady, DETOX is the perfect way to describe the cathartic feeling I have after treating myself to a ME hour or two.
KMB25 on 11 Oct 2007 at 9:46 am #
I’m feeling frazzled almost every day now…it sucks. I work in three states every week and live in two. (thank god this is only for the next 8 months!). I haven’t managed to really relax yet…although I used to like to read books. Now I say, “Reading? What’s that?”…I love to read and haven’t had either the a)time or b) energy to even do that. I’m still carrying around books that I bought over two months ago and haven’t had time to read yet!
The massage things has helped a little bit lately…basically, I need a vacation already and it’s Only October!!
~Kim
SuzyQ on 11 Oct 2007 at 10:02 am #
Kim, hang in there!
darkshire007 on 11 Oct 2007 at 10:24 am #
To relax, I sit on the floor and talk to my cat. Boots is 11 this year and when I talk to him, I try to imagine the world from his perspective and wonder if he has enjoyed his life? Does he like the food I give him? The toys? The special kitty bed w/the faux fur? My MIL once gave me a coffee cup that said “If cats could talk, they would lie to you”. It put a damper on my conversations with Boots, but I still do it. I do it because I see unconditional love in his little black and white face and he lets me ramble and is not judgmental. He lets me cry into his fur and then purrs to make me feel better. And I do, I always feel better after talking to Boots.
Nicole Jordan on 11 Oct 2007 at 10:26 am #
Yikes, Kim! Your life makes my current one look really tame. Talk about stress. Hope it gets better soon.
>>>I would give 15 pounds (my left arm) to be the kind of person who finds exercise relaxing. I don’t. Or maybe it’s that I haven’t tried it enough to make the connection. Definitely possible.
LOL, Claudia. I don’t know too many folks who call exercising relaxing, either. It’s the aftermath that’s relaxing. That shot of endorphins can be a great natural high. One of my former vets told me that endophins are supposed to be 1000 times more addictive than morphine. But to become addicted, you gotta first experience a few *G*.
Gannon on 11 Oct 2007 at 10:33 am #
Kim, hang in there sweetie! Makes me tired just reading about your schedule!
I agree with the soak in a tub, with a nice glass of wine and a good book. I haven’t done that in quite awhile, so I think I may be overdue!
Ellen, I love the PJ day! My kids know when I’m in need of “me” time. The mom bank is empty–too many withdrawals, not enough deposits! We women need to take time to relax and recharge! We owe it to ourselves.
ericaleigh on 11 Oct 2007 at 10:35 am #
I’m with Ellen on the shower and clean PJ’s, especially at this time of year when the weather is nice and brisk. I like to slip on my comfiest pajama pants and a soft t-shirt and then opening my sliding glass door and letting my room get nice and chilly - wait! I can’t forget those “softest socks in the world” and then grabbing my pillow and a blanket and either curling up with a book or laying down and watching an old favorite movie. Plus my mom and I share one of those bean/rice filled shoulder things that you warm up in the microwave and then it kind of hugs your neck and shoulders and seeps warmth into those areas that seem to get tense first. Its almost as good as a quick shoulder rub!
Georgie Lee on 11 Oct 2007 at 10:41 am #
I have a few strategies for getting over the frazzles. One is to get out of my regular routine, even if it is only for an hour or two. If I’m lucky I can get out of town for the weekend by visiting my family in San Diego. Otherwise, a night out with friends or an afternoon road trip works wonders. If I can’t do any of the above, working out, reading, watching a good movie or taking the dog for a nice long walk are great too.
Karen Hawkins on 11 Oct 2007 at 11:14 am #
Kim, hang in there! That sort of travel can really wear you out. Hugs!
I forgot one Relaxer Item . . . this cloth bag of corn that someone gave me. You keep it in the freezer and it can serve as either a cold or warm compress. All you have to do is toss it into the microwave and it’s toasty in a few minutes. The best part, it smells like warm sweet corn bread. LOVELY and feels oh so good when I tuck it under my toes on the couch!
KMB25 on 11 Oct 2007 at 11:23 am #
Thanks everyone
Gannon– I’m so wanting a hot tub to soak in now!! Anyways, my life will settle down once we permanently move to ATL…next June. Until then…I’ll be ok, just a little insane!! I think my solution is trying to be super-organized so that I can stay on top of things….I’m still working on it though!
Anyways, I’m off to work…I have an hour and a half drive ahead of me…ughh. I think I’m going to invest in some books on tape! Are there any Goddess authors on here that have their new books on cd’s???? That way I can try to catch up!
~Kim
Bumblebee on 11 Oct 2007 at 11:24 am #
Ellen, I vote that Pajama Day become a legal, paid, floating holiday. And if you feel a Pajama Day coming up, you should be able to inform friends and family in advance so that they can provide all of the necessary Pajama Day supplies. A cleaned out tub in preparation for a bubble bath would go a long way, too. After all, it’s in everyone’s best interest to have you feeling de-stressed, right?
-Emmiebee, feeling like Pajama Day should be weekly
cail on 11 Oct 2007 at 11:24 am #
ah, the bags of corn/rice/beans… i actually make those for xmas gifts for my friends. they’re always eternally grateful for them. i actually have one of them at work too!
Nicole Jordan on 11 Oct 2007 at 11:35 am #
>>>Sherri Erwin = There’s a scene at the dance when she sees him suddenly next to her and you can just feel the electricity. That one glance said more than most love scenes.
So true, Sherri! And I still adore the dance scene in the A&E Pride&Prejudice where Lizzie and Darcy are going back and forth with accusations in time with the dance choreograpy. The sparks in that scene just are wonderful.
>>I do get frazzled, and when I do, I have to whine it out. One long frantic whine, even if no one is listening, and then I can move on.
Yes, yes! It’s amazing how much better I feel if I can vent to someone, even if they can’t help me fix my problem.
Nicole Jordan on 11 Oct 2007 at 11:42 am #
Darkshire, I can so relate to your conversations with your cat! I like to watch my horse eat grass. There’s something so relaxing about that. And I know animals can understand our moods and body language and tone of voice, even they don’t know all the words we use.
And I forgot totally about those bean bag thingies. I’ve used them on sore muscles, but I need to remember to pull them out for relaxing stress.
Kim, I have a friend who has really long commutes… she swears by audio books. That might be a great help. It could fulfill your need to read and make use of that wasted driving time. In fact, I believe there’s an on-line place like Netflix where you can rent audio books, although I wouldn’t swear to that. But if not, your library may have some.
Cookiedough on 11 Oct 2007 at 11:57 am #
I adored Becoming Jane. All things pertaining to Jane Austen, really.
One of my favourite de-stressers is sitting down with P & P. Lately it’s been the Matthew MacFayden version, but Colin Firth has kept me company as well.
I have a grubby clothes day. comfy fleece socks, sweats and a blankie combined with a movie, book ,diet coke and chocolate does it for me.
claudia dain on 11 Oct 2007 at 12:04 pm #
For those of you who haven’t had a nice, hot bath in a while, Do It! I enjoy a bubble bath every single night; it’s the treat at the end of every day and it’s such a great relaxer. I honestly think that the reason I don’t get stressed regularly is because of my nightly bath habit. My mom used to do the same thing, which is where I picked up the habit, and my daughter does it now. Who knew that a Nightly Soak would turn into a mini-matriarchal legacy?
ericaleigh on 11 Oct 2007 at 12:41 pm #
Emmiebee - I think those days are referred to as “Mental Health” days, that’s when you just have to make up the good fake cough and call in sick. I miss those days, that was the one benefit about working in a corporate environment. Ahhh! Now I have to come up with an actual doctor’s note and no sick pay if I don’t show up for work
Kay on 11 Oct 2007 at 3:32 pm #
I with all of you who voted for the bath. For normal life stresses, a good soak, a book and some quiet does the trick. I really should take Claudia’s advice and make it a nightly routine–wash away the day LOL
For major stress, I try to make to make time for a massage (once a year or so), and the in between times, I may treat myself to a pedicure. I also do that as a reward for completing a short story & submitting it.
I haven’t seen the movie yet, but it’s on the list.
Ronlyn on 11 Oct 2007 at 5:26 pm #
The best way for me to decompress is to go for a walk, by myself. I discovered this summer that walks just aren’t as relaxing when I’m being asked, “Mommy, what’s that?” “Mommy, why is that bug there?” “Mommy, can I pick those flowers?” “Mommy, why are you gritting your teeth?”

I somehow always come away refreshed after any of those activities. LOL
I love going for nice long walks, or taking nice long baths with a book and a glass of wine.
Or I seduce my DH.
Ellen on 11 Oct 2007 at 6:01 pm #
I’m happy so many of us share the PJ state of mind. However, Claudia, it has been years since my last bath.
Tell you what, my special friends…I’ll give you ALL one week’s notice when I plan to take my next bath. That way you can all buy as much stock in Crisco as you can afford. These hips ain’t fittin’ into the tub without a little help.
Ellen on 11 Oct 2007 at 6:08 pm #
Nicole said: “I do get frazzled, and when I do, I have to WHINE it out. One long frantic WHINE….”
OMG…We are such soul sisters. Only mine doesn’t have an “H” in it.
Mine is an intravenous line attached to my temple pumping the finest WINE nine dollars can buy.
Bliss, Bliss, Bliss.
Ellen on 11 Oct 2007 at 6:17 pm #
Am I the only one who is wondering why Karen Hawkins’s “corn bag” doesn’t eventually POP? It brings new meaning to having a corn on your foot…and…I might add… served as the food reference for the day. Warm corn bread, indeed!
I swear I am going to start bringing your food references into my diet counselor (hate her!) and throw myself on the pity of Jenny Craig.
By the way…I read from the bottom up…it was Sherri who suggested a good whine first. Might I suggest a chardonnay?
Ellen on 11 Oct 2007 at 6:22 pm #
I’ve decided to stop reading up. I cannot chance discovering who said that exercising is their favorite release. It would put too much of a schism in our relationship. For God’s sake, exercising is so alien to me I had to spell check the damn word.
Cookiedough on 11 Oct 2007 at 6:23 pm #
Ellen, you crack me up!
I don’t take baths either. nice long hot showers to wash away the ick of the day.
Ellen on 11 Oct 2007 at 6:24 pm #
Um…in case anyone wants to know what else I do after a stressful day…it would appear I rant on Mt. Olympus.
I’ll be quiet now.
Ellen on 11 Oct 2007 at 6:26 pm #
ick…LOL
Cookiedough on 11 Oct 2007 at 6:30 pm #
Ellen-I look after children and bake for a living, so there is definate ick to get rid of
Julia London on 11 Oct 2007 at 7:33 pm #
I used to exercise to reduce stress. Now it would appear I eat sugar.
Claudia, I have one of those huge luxurious spa tubs. By the time I get the thing filled up past the jets, I’ve lost interest. I’m a shower girl through and through.
Julia London on 11 Oct 2007 at 7:35 pm #
Oh, oops…I forgot to say I haven’t seen BJ, but I am DYING to — I love those period films.
As for the Jane Austen book club…my book club read it, and the consensus was they were less than enthused. You really have to know your Jane Austen to appreciate the book (which, of course, I did). I bet the movie is a lot better than the book. Can’t wait to see it, either!
Julia London on 11 Oct 2007 at 7:35 pm #
Really, should we be calling it BJ?
Kay on 11 Oct 2007 at 9:17 pm #
Julia, I haven’t seen that movie, either. I couldn’t stop laughing in the book when *SPOILER ALERT* they were at the SF convention and the people crossed their arms to show they were invisible. I hope they put that in the movie.
Julia London on 11 Oct 2007 at 9:19 pm #
Oh yeah, Kay, that was hilarious!
Santa on 11 Oct 2007 at 9:34 pm #
I love PJ days! Re-reading Persuasion or re-watching P&P does wonders for me!
Haven’t seen ‘Becoming Jane’ but it’s playing at the $2 movie theatre, so there still a glimmer of hope that I will see it before it goes to DVD….the same may happen for ‘The Jane Austen Book Club’…but I am a patient girl!
pri.r. on 11 Oct 2007 at 9:38 pm #
hello all….this has nothing to do with anything but general discussion for all you Sherrilyn Kenyon readers, regarding her Dark Hunter series…
does one else here want Acheron and Artemis to get together??…. i mean honestly why Simi?!… hmph!….
Dot C on 11 Oct 2007 at 10:45 pm #
My stress reliever is Coldstone Creamery Coffee lovers delight sundae. OMG, there are wonderful things in the world, ladies, and this….this is definitely one of them. Pair that up with a smooth caramel mocha latte…..wow.
Happy Place…
Once every other month or so, my Mr and I pack up and head down to Ogunquit, ME, and meet with a bunch of friends for the weekend. How much fun is it to get a mess of your friends together, stay at a choice inn, and cavort till all hours, then wake up early and play pranks on everyone? We have a blast and have created so many fond memories.
PRI.R. - Acheron and Artemis are together thru necessity. Simi is Ash’s adopted daughter, not his lover. She is a demon that can become a tattoo on his body. Acheron and Artemis have expressed genuine feelings for each other, and ****SPOILER ALERT**** have a daughter together (from her most recent book Devil May Cry.
Nicole Jordan on 11 Oct 2007 at 10:53 pm #
>>> my Mr and I pack up and head down to Ogunquit, ME, and meet with a bunch of friends for the weekend.
Oh, that sounds so lovely, Dot! I haven’t had time to do that, but a getaway with friends sounds like a great tonic.
Ellen, you crack me up, too. I’m with you on the wine. And TGB has been a great place to make friends and feel as if I connected to the world outside of my office with people who totally understand me. Also, I understand that for corn kernels to actually pop, it has to be a special kind… that’s why they call it popping corn.
Nicole Jordan on 11 Oct 2007 at 10:58 pm #
I’m a shower girl, too, Julia! And because of your bookclub comments, I’ll wait till the JABC comes out at the $1 theater, so that way if it isn’t wonderful, I won’t feel as if I’ve wasted ticket money, just spend $10 on popcorn and diet coke.
Ronlyn, the walk thing sounds lovely. And the seduce the dh even better, although these days I’m lucky if I can find the time for a cuddle. But that works wonders.
>>>does one else here want Acheron and Artemis to get together??….
I do, Pri! But I don’t know if it’ll ever happen. Sherri has such a fab imagination she may come up with something none of us ever expected but that will feel just right.
Nicole Jordan on 11 Oct 2007 at 11:02 pm #
Kay, my horse’s masseuse can work wonders on people, too. But I’ve only had the chance to use him once. Dh did several times recuperating from a ski injury, and my elderly horse gets the royal treatement regularly, along with acupuncture, but I’ve never splurged on myself.
I have a friend here who goes every single Sat to a massage school, so all the students get to practice on her. But it’s free and she feels great afterward.
pri.r. on 12 Oct 2007 at 7:01 am #
OMG DOT.C. YOU ARE MY SAVIOUR!!! *sighs in relief*…i need to get a Devil May Cry…. Sherri has announced that she shall have a book about Acheron …. aptly named… ACHERON